In this episode, Donna Joy Usher dives deep into the vulnerable story of a recent trigger in her romantic relationshipโand what it revealed about unconscious patterns, fairy tales we create to feel safe, and the power of radical self-responsibility. From unraveling old beliefs around being "low maintenance" to exploring the core differences between conscious and unconscious relationships, Donna shares raw insights and personal healing moments that invite listeners to reflect on their own relational dynamics. This episode is a blend of soul truth, embodied wisdom, and real-life healing work.
In Episode 70, Donna Joy Usher shares a deeply personal trigger that surfaced during a simple moment in her current relationshipโand how it cracked open old stories of needing to be the โperfectโ partner to feel safe. What unfolds is a heartfelt exploration of how our childhood beliefs can shape adult dynamics and how healing these wounds requires both inner work and embodied relationship experiences.
Topics covered:
The fantasy of being the โlow-maintenanceโ partner and how it shows up in love
Why triggers arenโt about the nowโtheyโre about unhealed past moments
Conscious vs. unconscious relationships: key differences and how to spot them
How to navigate adult conversations with compassion and clarity
Creating structure in relationship to foster emotional safety and intimacy
Why some wounds only fully heal through loving, present relationship dynamics
โจ If youโre ready to shift out of old patterns and into empowered love, this episode will speak to your soul.
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